Please welcome author Tonya Barbee to my blog. Her book, The Little Girl Inside: Owning My Role in My Own Pain, was released earlier this year.
Tell us a bit about yourself.
I’m an Army brat from NC. My dad was an Army Officer and my mom a college administrator for bursars and presidents.
What or who inspired you to start writing?
Encouragement from friends resulting from telling them my stories of life events.
How much of yourself, your personality or your experiences, is in your books?
Most of who I am are written in my books. I love sharing when I know that what I write about is helping others.
Do you write full-time? If so, what is your work day like? If not, what do you do other than write and how do you find time to write?
I aspire to some day write full time. I work 9-hour days during the week, while raising a 12-year old busy son as a single parent. I find time to write during evenings and weekends after football and basketball games that my son is involved in.
Have you started your next project?
I’m always working on something. As concepts come into my head, I start writing about them. I have several in the fire now. If so, can you share a little bit about your next book? J just completed a collaboration project with ten other authors called, Sharing Our Prayers. It’s available on my website. And I’m finalizing the next project titled I am Still a Rose. To the sequel to the Little Girl Inside in which I fully describe what it was like to be married to a sociopath and bigamist. In I am Still a Rose, I wrote about how it all started. What happens to kids that don’t get therapy after witnessing traumatic events i their lives. I share my life with hopes of helping other women work through their issues, get through their issues so that they can move beyond their pain to become and attract better people in their lives. Broken people attract broken people.
What is the best thing about being a writer? The worst?
The best thing is that you get to put your thoughts on paper and then publish for the world to read. That takes nerve! And the worse is I am still working through the ins and outs of getting it out to those that I feel the books and stories will inspire.
How long on average does it take you to write a book?
It can take me three months to two years depending on what I allow to get in the way.
Who are some authors that inspire you?
I love James Paterson, Terry McMillan, Dean Koonz and a host of others. I just love to read books that won’t allow me to put them down.
Please tell us about your current release.
The Little Girl Inside Owning My Role in My Own Pain is about getting through the hardship of a bigamist marriage and accepting that I played a role in that hardship and needed to understand my role so that I would not repeat in future relationships.
If this book is part of a series, what is the next book? Any details you can share?
Yes, I am Still a Rose is the sequence. It’s about the whole story. The original book only talked about the last husband and a few of the inequities of our marriage.
Is there a specific place in the house (or out of the house) that you like to write?
Yes in my gray comfy chair with ottoman in my bedroom and occasionally at my desk in my bedroom.
Do you have a specific snack that you have with you when you write?
Yes, grapes, pepper jack cheese and wheat crackers and occasionally a glass of wine.
Do you have an all time favorite book?
A Dollar Late a Dollar Short by Terry McMillan.
Tell us a random fact about you that we never would have guessed.
I love to dance and sing when I can but I can never remember the lyrics when I sing.
Drug addict, cheater, emotionally unavailable, and bigamist. What’s the common denominator. It is “I.” “The Little Girl Inside” who is unable to distinguish between love, the need to be loved and to understand her role in her pain.
This book takes the reader through the many experiences of the author to include four marriages, and subsequently four divorces. More importantly, it takes the reader through the author’s decision to move beyond her own poor choices and to accept accountability for her failed relationships. This book details the author’s journey from a vicious cycle, consequently, realizing that she indeed had a role in her own pain. Can she own her role? Will she own her role? Turn the pages to unveil Tonya Barbee’s journey.
About the Author
Tonya Barbee, Founder of I am Still a Rose, LLC (IASAR), has a passion to help those who want to be helped. It took her awhile to realize that she had to make a change in her life in order to get the change she was looking for. After betrayal, emotional abuse, and other turmoil, she had to self-reflect, learn to forgive, and move beyond her pain. Her commitment is to help inspire and empower those that are ready to start a new chapter and to stop those vicious cycles.
IASAR will offer events, conferences, plays, and inspirational products that empower women to get past their circumstances to get to their triumphs. Tonya is an inspirational speaker who uses her experiences to uplift women who have had similar circumstances and are ready for resolution. She’s spiritual, energized, funny, and eager to help encourage others to never, ever give up.
Tonya never dreamed of writing books but she’s always enjoyed telling stories and sharing profound testimonies. Her listeners inspired her to write and the rest is history. The Little Girl Inside is her first project, followed by a short story, a collaborative project with ten amazing authors who bared their souls through heart wrenching testimonies. Tonya’s short story is titled, Prayer Works, in Sharing Our Prayers which is followed by her latest (soon to be released), I Am Still A Rose, a sequel to The Little Girl Inside. She’s working on several other exciting projects so stay tuned.
Tonya resides in Maryland and enjoys spending time with her incredible four children and seven grandchildren that have stolen her heart.
You can purchase The Little Girl Inside on Amazon.