H is for High School #AtoZChallenge

For the A to Z Challenge, I have chosen the theme of antagonists.

On my normal blogging days, Monday – parenting and Thursday – writing/publishing, I will tie that day’s topic to antagonists but on the other days (Tuesday, Friday and Saturday), I will write about antagonists from movies, TVs or books. On Wednesdays, my Quote of the Week will be from an antagonist that matches the letter of the day. Enjoy. 

For some high school was the time of their life. For others, it was a horrible experience that they would never want to live through again.

Yes, today is H in the A to Z Challenge, and I am talking about high school.

For me, it seems like a long time ago. This coming May will mark 27 years since I graduated. And it still feels far off for my kids even though Jase will be there in three years.

Of course, I do think about how it will be for him. The high school is so big. I don’t want him to be lost in the crowd. There are currently 2800 students there. This has him going from a class of 125 in his last year of elementary school to a class of 700 by the time he enters the high school in 2020.

And while Johnson High School is a good school, there are all the same dangers of any high school – bullying, cyber bullying, peer pressure, drugs and in general teenagers making poor decisions.

I was never a party girl in high school. I didn’t try drugs. I wasn’t bullied. I do remember not feeling like I fit in at times, but I had a close-knit group of friends. We hung out. We drove past boys’ houses. We had fun, but I don’t recall anything dangerous or crazy. We didn’t go to alcohol filled parties. We just had our own good times.

I can hope that these are the same experiences my kids have but times have changed. It is scary to read about the latest drugs kids take, the high pregnancy rates or the pressure on kids to succeed. High school is a time to learn and grow. And even “good” kids can fall to bad habits. I just have to hope and work toward making sure my kids don’t fall into that category.

And in case you want to check out my other antagonists from the challenge…

A is for Apocalypse

B is for Bad Boys (parenting)

C is for Cruella de Vil

D is for Darth Vader (Quote)

D is for To Die for Cake (Recipe)

E is for Evil (Writing)

F is for Freddy Kruger

G is for Gollum

 

 

Celebrating Valentine’s Day – differences of being 10, 20 and now

Valentines-day-Greetings-2015Yesterday was February fourteenth. For some people, it was a special day to spend with the one they love. For some, it is a stark reminder that they are still looking for that special someone. And for some, it is a day like no other. Whatever it was to you I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day really changes as the years pass.

NOW 

My husband and I have had a long-established policy of celebrating Valentine’s Day by going out to lunch rather than dinner to avoid the crowds. The price of flowers skyrockets so we don’t do flowers either. (Actually before I became a stay-at-home mom, my husband routinely had flowers delivered to the office for no other reason than to show he loves me. It made many of the women in the office a little jealous since their husbands never did that.)

Typically, we don’t do much in the way of gifts. I might get my husband a shirt or a DVD. Lately, he has been buying me chocolate-covered strawberries. Yum!

At age 20

Me and “Tiny”

I still recall our first Valentine’s Day together – 23 years ago. We were in college and had begun dating in December. While I was away from my apartment, one of my other roommates let him in my room. He covered the walls, floor and bed with those little Valentine’s Day cards you give out in elementary school and heart-shaped lollipops. Sitting on my bed was a huge pink teddy bear (which we named Tiny.) He brought me flowers when we went to dinner that night. What a wonderful memory.

At age 10

This year is the first time Jase has asked more about what being a Valentine means. A girl from another class likes him. He likes her. So she asked him to be her Valentine.

IMG_4092Since we are talking about 10-year-olds, we explained that because they both liked each other, as her Valentine he might think of getting her a special card or some candy. He opted to make her a card. I actually designed it on the computer with him sitting beside me telling me what he wanted. It featured a heart inside that sort of “pops” out when the card is opened. Inside he also included a 3D printed lion (her favorite animal). It was fun to see how excited he was about the situation.

I am sure this is just the first of many Valentines for him. I only hope he keeps talking to us about the girls he likes. What I am not sure I am ready for is Lexie and boys. She may only be in the second grade, but it will happen before I know it.