Mourning a loss – part 2

If you read my last post – Mourning a loss – part 1, you know that my mother passed away last month. I had planned to write last week more about her but a trip to the beach delayed that post. The trip was bittersweet. The last time we went to South Padre Island was last June. It was my parents, my brother, myself and my kids. It was different trip with Covid restrictions in place. But it was nice to get away with family. This time it was my husband, myself and the kids. I found myself thinking about my mom, remembering her there and hating the fact that we will never go on another trip together again.

It began in 2015 that we started going on vacations with her, my dad and my brother. The first one was a cruise to Mexico, Jamaica and Grand Cayman. The next year it was a a cabin at the lake (without my brother). And then there was the cruise to Alaska and a trip to Corpus Christi. We had a trip to New Orleans planned but then Covid hit, and our plans were cancelled. We went to South Padre Island instead. Who knew that would be our last trip together? But thankfully, we have the memories from all those other trips.

My family returned from South Padre two days before my mom’s funeral. Relatives that I haven’t seen in 8, 11 and 30 years came in from California, Florida, South Carolina and Missouri. It was great seeing everyone even if it was a sad occasion that brought us together.

It has been the hardest on my dad. He and my mother were married for 53 years. They met and married after only knowing each other for just 3 months. He was in the Air Force and days after they got married, my mom moved from Florida to Utah – her first time living out of the state. They went on to have three kids and lived in New Hampshire, Japan, Hawaii, California and Nebraska before my dad retired after 30 years in the Air Force. During those times, my mom was an elementary school teacher. After retirement, my dad went to work for the Department of Energy and my mom became a travel agent – which allowed us to do some more travel as I went to high school.

For fourteen years after I graduated, they stayed in Albuquerque, New Mexico. I would come see them or they would come visit me. During this time apart, I got married and helped put my husband through law school. When we finally settled in San Antonio and decided to have kids, my mom immediately moved closer to us. She spent almost 16 years spoiling those kids. When they were little, my parents went everywhere with me and the kids – to the zoo, Sea World, the park, the rodeo, and other special events like a day out with Thomas (the Tank).

My mom was always very supportive of anything I did. When I wrote on my blog, she would often leave a comment. When I sold Pampered Chef, she always bought something from each party. And of course, she bought and reviewed each book I wrote. She always bought something from every fundraiser the kids participated in and went to many of their concerts or events. She even volunteered at the school festival.

As I said, she loved to spoil me and the kids. She bought us Hallmark ornaments and made sure our favorite treats were there when we went over to her house to play board games. I love everything that we were able to do together. My only one regret is that we didn’t stop to take more pictures. Oh, I took pictures of my kids doing stuff. But we never gathered everyone together and took group pictures (unless you count Thanksgiving where every year we sat on the couch for a group photo.) I just wish I had more photos of she and I together. Often we were the ones behind the camera catching the joy and fun of the others.

It helps help knowing that she had a great 77 years of life here with us. I just wish it had been for many more years. I miss you, mom.

2 thoughts on “Mourning a loss – part 2

  1. @1942dicle says:

    Susan, Hellos from Seattle – This is Dee Tezelli, you might remember including an excerpt of one of my e-stories in your blog, of Apr.2017…So sorry for your loss…This is life; just be happy you had such a great relationship with your mom/dad. Are you interested in another excerpt of one my latest e-books?if you get a chance, check out new titles to select one. Confidentially in Peru, or Whisperer of Boundary Peak, etc. Keep Happy, Keep Safe. follow: http://www.deetezellimountainstories.wordpress.com

  2. […] But what made these last few weeks even worse, as the headline of this article states, I was mourning the loss of my mother, who died on May 9 (Mother’s Day for those in the U.S.) (You can read part one or part two here) […]

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