For the A to Z Challenge, I have chosen the theme of antagonists.
On my normal blogging days, Monday – parenting and Thursday – writing/publishing, I will tie that day’s topic to antagonists but on the other days (Tuesday, Friday and Saturday), I will write about antagonists from movies, TVs or books. On Wednesdays, my Quote of the Week will be from an antagonist that matches the letter of the day. Enjoy.
Girls often fall for a bad boy. Today is the letter B which is for the Bad Boys I hope my daughter never falls for.
Now bad boys can mean different things. There are the serious bad apples with run-ins with the law, use drugs and get arrested. Then there are the mischief makers who enjoy breaking the rules because they can. They drive too fast, engage in risky behavior and seek out danger.
What is it about bad boys that make them so attractive?
Often they present a challenge. Many women believe that they can be the one who can “tame” the bad boy, or that they are the one who can get him to change.
Or it could be the excitement of being someone who opposes the rules. That type of situation can provide an adrenaline rush. Being with a bad boy can be about living life to the fullest. It is about the adventure.
Bad boys often appear very confident. It flows into everything they do from the friends they hang out with to the vehicles they drive and the girls they chat with. They know how to get what they want.
As a teenager or a young adult, I can see the appeal. Books and movies portray these “bad” boys in a way that makes them appealing. But as a parent of a girl, I hope she never falls for one of these boys. One mistake parents often make is to forbid their daughter from dating “that” boy. This can cause the girl to keep dating him in secret.
Instead, the best course is probably to get to know the boy. If you still have reservations, then be honest with your daughter. Try to ask questions that let her draw her own conclusions about him and his behavior. Teach her to respect herself and be able to stand up for herself.
Of course, it is easy for me to say this as Lexie is only 9. And only time will tell if I even have to deal with this. Luckily, for many teens the falling for a bad boy is a passing phase.
Check out my other antagonists from the challenge…
A is for Apocalypse