For the A to Z Challenge, I have chosen the theme of characters. On my normal blogging days, Monday – parenting, Wednesday – quotes, and Thursday – writing/publishing, I will focus on characteristics. On the other days (Tuesday, Friday and Saturday), I will write about characters from movies, TVs or books.
Today on the A to Z blogging challenge, the letter is I. On Mondays, I typically write about a parenting issue so for the letter I, I chose Independence – as instilling independence in your child.
Our job as parents is to love, nurture and protect our children while guiding them into become responsible adults. It is often too easy for us to want to do things for our kids rather than letting them do it themselves.
Yes, it may be faster to tie your kids’ shoelaces. But if you don’t take the time to show them how to do it themselves and let them practice (even if it takes them four times longer to do it than if you did it), then they will never learn to do it.
The same applies with chores. Children may take longer and not do as good a job as a parent, but they need to learn. And they only will learn by being given the opportunity to do it themselves.
So instead of doing it for them or jumping in to help, wait to be asked for help and then instead of doing it for them, show them how to do it. After that stand back and let them do it. Allow them to make mistakes and figure out how to fix those mistakes. Yes, you can offer guidance but resist rushing into help or do it for them. Remember it is all in the name of letting them grow, learn and become independent.
If you missed the other days in the A to Z Challenge:
A is for Alice
B is for Belgarath
C is for Cautious Child
D is for Dana Scully
F is for Flaky Character
G is for Gandalf
H is for Huckleberry Finn